For weeks I tried to keep up with the acrimony, sarcasm and intentional alienation that went on in that blog whose name I won't mention but goes by five letters and a little rainbow-peacock thingy. It was no use. I just didn't have it in me, and the folks over there weren't buying it. I guess I just wasn't sincere in my attempts at mockery, sermonizing and choir-preaching, and the votes and comments just weren't coming in.
So I took a new tack into uncharted waters. What if, I asked myself, I went on a quest for decency, fairness, conciliation and curiosity in the language used by my fellow Vinesters? To my absolute delight, it wasn't hard to find, and the responses came pouring in.
Is this reflective of a dilemma many folks are facing offline, in the 3D, air-breathing grind of real life? Myself, I live in an environment (I'm new to the area, and getting older, so I can't tell if it's the place or the time) where giving someone a compliment usually gets received like you just threw hydrochloric acid in their face, and this annoying protocol I call the "supposed to know policy" is the law of the land.
The way that works is, if someone thinks it's your job to know something, it's your job to find it out, by any means necessary EXCEPT to ask someone who might know. THAT is just such a bother that one just ought not ever trouble anyone by seeking information from them. The reverse of this is, if there is the slightest chance that you might tell someone something they already know, you risk committing insult and intrusion deserving of the most cold-shouldered, offended demeanor the aggrieved party can manage.
What is behind all this posturing in people, online and off, I don't know and I don't care. I want to do better, and I want to find people to have dialogue with who are easygoing and flexible, not easily offended and brittle.
Anybody want to join my quest?